People always say long-distance relationships are the hardest things to maintain — but is it the same with long-distance friendships?
One of my best friends lives across the country from me. Funny thing is, we’ve never lived in the same city — we met online at work. And we’ve only really seen each other in person six times.
Here’s a photo of her, for context:
Heide and I met “at work” about four or so years ago while she was living in Halifax. I’m in Montreal. We started chatting and eventually bonded over mutual interests — most significantly, our love of dumb memes.
On the flip side, we also have a lot of differences — she likes going to concerts and discovering new bands; I spend all my days doing yoga and listening to the same playlists over and over again.
Our casual discussions eventually grew into one of the most honest friendships I’ve ever had in my life. The good, the bad, the gross and the ugly; we share it all with each other.
A few years ago, she moved to Calgary — way farther away than the one hour, thirty minute flight to Halifax (no, really, the flight out west is five hours).
When I say we’ve met six times, this is what I mean:
- Heide came to visit me in Montreal.
- I visited her in Halifax.
- We went on a three-week long trip to Greece.
- She came to Montreal for my bridal shower and bachelorette.
- A month later, she came back for my wedding.
- I visited her in Calgary for Stampede and we spent her birthday in Kelowna.
We often talk about how weird it is that, even though we’ve only physically been in each other’s presence a handful of times, we can talk about anything.
In fact, the distance means we have to make an effort to talk every day in order to keep up with each other’s lives. I found the same thing happened when my sister moved back to Australia.
Since we weren’t in the same city, we couldn’t take advantage of the fact that the other person was simply “there.” I think distance has actually been a good thing for my friendships; it’s made them stronger.
Do you have any long-distance friendships? How do you find they differ from the friends you have who live nearby?
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